It’s no secret that disagreements happen in any relationship. No two people are going to agree on 100% of everything, that’s totally normal. It’s very important to develop a healthy way of getting through these disagreements, though. If you don’t, you’ll never work through the issues, and they will continually build and build on each other, usually leading to mega blowout fights.
There’s a big difference in fighting fair and fighting dirty. Here’s some basic things to keep in mind for when those disagreements do happen, and how you can get through them with your partner in a peaceful, respectful manner, so you both can move onto all the good parts of the relationship.
It isn’t a cliché to have a closet full of clothes with nothing to wear for no reason. I know I’m not the only one guilty of having a packed full closet, and yet feeling like I can never piece together an actual outfit I like. I might be able to give my closet a quick scan and feel like I have a great collection, but when it comes time to get dressed in the morning I’m left exasperated, storming out and picking up the same tee shirt off the laundry chair that I wear every week.
Life can be truly crazy sometimes. Especially when you’re in your twenties and have to do adult things but still feel like a kid, and want to call your mom for every little thing. I feel like sometimes I’m constantly trying to dodge the curveballs life is throwing at me. Scott and I are in the process of trying to buy a house and I feel like we just can’t catch a break. One week it’s realizing that our rent is increasing by 40% when the lease is up. The next it’s yet another offer falling through, or not even getting a response at all. It’s been a disheartening process. Not to mention all the other day to day craziness that shows up. The other day at nannying, the youngest got mad that mom was leaving and ended up breaking a pane of glass mid-tantrum. He wasn’t hurt luckily, but hello terrible twos!
Before I dive in, I just want to say that everyone is different, and what works for some people, doesn’t work for others. I want to share my experience, in case others are going through what I went through, but this doesn’t mean that my choice is the best choice for everyone. You feel me???
As much as I love going and walking around the mall (and counting that as my exercise for the day), I find myself more and more gravitating towards online shopping versus in person shopping. No dealing with lines, waiting for that saleswomen to open the dressing rooms for FOREVER, or even just finding the time to go and shop (hi busy moms and hustling ladies out there, looking at you!) Plus, I’m incredibly lazy and generally don’t like being around people. That probably isn’t where you can relate the most, but hey, it’s true.
Ever catch yourself scrolling through your social media feed and see a picture of a cute couple or a romantic quote and think to yourself, “why can’t my relationship be more like that?” I definitely have. And while it may seem like an innocent passing thought, those thoughts can be a lot more damaging than you realize.
Deciding to move in together is such an exciting step in a relationship. It’s nerve-wracking and wonderful in all the best ways. My boyfriend, Scott, and I were actually already living together when we decided to live together. Confusing, I know. But, we were living together as friends in a group house for about a year before we started dating. Then about a year after that, decided we wanted to live together just the two of us.
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Does anyone else use a beauty blender or some other kind of makeup sponge and feel totally awkward about where to put it after you’ve used it? It’s wet, and either is clean, or still has makeup on it, and surfaces have dust or germs or will make it dry unevenly and just seem generally unhygienic? I’ve tried propping it up in someway, but it always ends up falling over. THERE’S GOTTA BE A BETTER WAY! (Jk, but seriously)
Went a lil cray online shopping at Ulta because they had a 20% off sale (including high end brands!!) and also used up my points I had been saving – ended up only spending like $4 dollars on all these goodies!! Keep reading if you wanna see my Ulta haul!