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Continuing along with the series with ideas for the Words of Affirmation Love Language. If you need some examples or places to start on how to best show love to your Words of Affirmation partner, this post will give you plenty!

Not familiar with The 5 Love Languages? Highly recommend picking up the book! But, I’ll give ya a quick summary. Basically, everyone has their own “Love Language” which is how they need love to be shown to them.

It’s important to know your own, and know your partner’s, so that you can both adequately show love to one another. If you’re doing all the “right things” but your partner doesn’t feel loved, you might not be speaking their “language,” and the book outlines how to do so.

Click here to read more Love Language ideas!

Words of Affirmation hits much closer to home because it is my personal love language. I crave positive affirmations, verbal affection, appreciation, and compliments.

I’m totally a words person, I think that might be why I like writing so much. But, I need words of affirmation to feel loved. They mean so much to me, and when I’m not receiving them, I feel down.

So, I wanted to provide some ideas for anyone needing some inspiration how to best love on their Words of Affirmation significant other, or anyone else who might feel loved through words.

If it doesn’t come naturally to you, it’s something you will have to put effort into, and work on developing as a habit. Try not to think of it as something that feels unnatural, and you can’t do it. I know it can feel that way at first. But, it’s just a habit you need to work on developing, as anything else.

Man swinging women around in the water lovingly.

Set reminders on your phone. Decide on a time everyday where you will say a sweet thing to your partner. Put a note on your computer screen. Remind yourself until you no longer need reminders. Your significant other will feel happy and loved, and your relationship will thrive because of it. It’s worth the effort!

Plenty of people who have the Words of Affirmation Love Language, give out Words of Affirmation on a regular basis. If this is your partner’s Love Language, then pay attention to what they’re saying to you. It’s a great way to pick up on examples that you can use, and see what type of things they’re saying.

Chances are they want similar things said back to them. They’re saying them to you because they know it’s what makes themselves feel happy and loved, so these are great things to take note of and figure out a way to repeat back to them.

I think sometimes the problem can be that we assume our partner already knows what we’re thinking. Whether it’s that you love them, appreciate something, or anything else. But, if your partner’s Love Language is Words of Affirmation, they want to hear it anyways, if they know it or don’t know it. Either way, they want to hear it.

Yes, I know that Scott loves me, but hearing it is way better than just knowing it, at least that is the case for me. That’s a great way he can show it. For him, I can show it to him with Acts of Service, since that is his Love Language. I personally can never hear any type of Words of Affirmation too many times.

An example of how to show Words of Affirmation to your partner.

Another thing to listen for and notice is your partner’s insecurities. This is a place in their life where Words of Affirmation are especially needed. It’s a great way to build them up and be supportive. You’re providing them with the words they need to hear.

Tip – if you come home and notice something. Anything. They look nice. The house has been cleaned. The dishes are put away. They’re working hard on something. They’re cooking dinner. ANYTHING. What do you see? SAY IT. Add a “thank you” or “I appreciate that you’re” or “I’m so impressed” in the beginning, and BAM you’ve got yourself some Words of Affirmation.

For your partner, these types of phrases make them feel understood, noticed, appreciated, and loved. They’re super important to start incorporating, and the list below is a great jumping off point.

Do any in the list stick out as something you could easily apply to your own relationship? Write those down somewhere easily accessible so you always have them handy.

If none stick out, pick a few anyways and jot them down. Start saying them here and there and gauge the reaction. The better they react, the more you should say similar things along those lines!

Don’t worry if you feel like you may be coming across as disingenuous when you first start to incorporate these, that’s okay. Your partner will feel grateful and appreciative of the effort you’re making to say more things that they want to hear. Plus, the more you say them, the more natural they will come across!

Words of Affirmation Love Language Ideas:

  1. Thank you for cooking this delicious dinner
  2. I had such a great time out with you
  3. Thank you for all of your support
  4. I love spending time with you
  5. I’m so proud of how hard you’ve been working
  6. You look so pretty/handsome today
  7. I love waking up next to you
  8. I really appreciate you keeping up with laundry/dishes/chore
  9. I wouldn’t have had this much fun without you
  10. Thanks for being so understanding
  11. I’m so sorry you had to go through (something hard they’re experiencing)
  12. Spontaneously saying “I love you”
  13. Thank you so much for listening
  14. I couldn’t have gotten through (problem) without you
  15. Your encouragement really motivates me
  16. I’m here for you if you need anything
  17. I really admire (quality about them)
  18. Leaving a hidden note saying something sweet for them to find
  19. I’m so impressed you were able to ____
  20. I’m so glad you shared that with me
  21. You’re working so hard on ____, you have such a great work ethic
  22. You look especially cute today
  23. I’m so happy you’re here with me
  24. An extra “I love you” before they leave for work
  25. You were right about ____
  26. Thanks for helping me work through my problem
  27. Writing them a love letter – extra points for mailing it to them
  28. Thank you for believing in me
  29. Great job on ____
  30. I appreciate you taking care of that (household task)
  31. You always know how to make me feel better
  32. You give the best advice
  33. Wow, the pantry looks so organized
  34. No thank you, but thanks for thinking of me
  35. Spontaneous sweet texts throughout the day
  36. You always know how to make me feel better
  37. It makes me so happy when you _____
  38. I’m sorry I hurt your feelings
  39. Thanks so much for fixing ____
  40. I’m not sure I understand what you mean, could you reexplain that
  41. I love how silly you are
  42. Specific compliments – that is such a great color on you, I love your haircut, your makeup looks really nice today, etc.
  43. Thank you for always making the best ____
  44. Cards on special occasions with a heartfelt note inside
  45. Thanks for thinking of me
  46. I have so much fun with you
  47. You have the best ____
  48. Thank you for taking such good care of me
  49. I’m so thankful to have you in my life
  50. You’re working so hard on ___, can I help you out at all
  51. I really value your opinion
  52. No one makes me laugh as hard as you
  53. You tell the best stories
  54. You bring out the best in me
  55. Thank you for making me feel so loved
  56. You make me want to be a better person
  57. Thanks for making my lunch, it really makes my mornings easier
  58. I admire your positive attitude
  59. I know you’re having a hard time with ____, I’m so impressed with how you’re handling that
  60. I can tell you’re stressed, is there something I can do to make things easier
  61. It looks so clean in here
  62. All of your hard work is going to pay off
  63. Compliment them in front of other people
  64. I appreciate how hard you work at your job
  65. You are the best cook
  66. Thank you for being so helpful with ____
  67. Ask them for their input on something
  68. I’m so thankful you’re always there for me
  69. I trust your opinion
  70. Thanks for driving me to work
  71. You’re the best boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife
  72. Thanks for considering my feelings
  73. I apologize for not fully listening before, you have my full attention now
  74. You’re support means everything
  75. I appreciate you tidying up
  76. What do you think I should do about ____
  77. I’m here to listen if you need it
  78. Everyone loved your ____, I could tell
  79. How did I get so lucky
  80. You were right about ____
  81. You’re my best friend
  82. Let me know if I can help you with anything
  83. I’m sorry I got so mad before
  84. You make my life so much happier
  85. Do you think you could help me with ____, I need your input
  86. You give the best hugs
  87. I’m so glad to be spending this time with you
  88. Thanks for having my back
  89. I know I already said sorry, but I wanted to apologize again and make sure you’re okay
  90. I can tell your upset, what can I do to help you feel better
  91. You’re my favorite person
  92. I know I can always count on you
  93. You are the best at _____
  94. That outfit (be specific) looks amazing on you
  95. Thanks for always trying to make me happy
  96. My life would be so boring without you
  97. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for us
  98. I can tell you’re really trying your best, you’ve got this
  99. What would I do without you
  100. I really admire how hard you’re working on ____
  101. You’re the love of my life

I hope this gives you some good ideas on where to start!

If you’re significant other has this Love Language, and you have some great ideas of what to say, I’d love for you to comment down below so we can keep the list going!

Same goes if your Love Language is Words of Affirmation, comment below things that make you feel loved!

Don’t forget to pick up the book to read if you haven’t already. It provides other examples, and goes into further detail about each of the Love Languages. It can help both you and your partner understand the importance of Love Languages, and how to start incorporating them in your relationship. Is a quick and enjoyable read!

Related: 101 Love Language Ideas – Acts of Service

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